When you try something new and don’t get the results you anticipated, you’re left feeling hopeless and defeated. This is especially true when it comes to making fitness and healthy nutrition part of your lifestyle. Maybe you feel as though you’ve tried it all: crash diets that tell you to “eat this much” or cut out all the foods you love.

Back-breaking exercise regimens that require more time than you’re willing or able to commit. Magic pills that tout extreme fat-burning, energy-boosting properties. All of these fads promise a surefire path to a fitter, healthier you. Yet these approaches are unrealistic and always lead to a sense of failure and guilt. It’s enough to make you want to give up.